tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post76418654163999987..comments2024-03-17T10:07:53.205-07:00Comments on The Well-Rounded Mama: Please Document Your Stories of MistreatmentWell-Rounded Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04129621631406155340noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-40027467146971027052010-08-30T05:08:38.090-07:002010-08-30T05:08:38.090-07:00Yes i need to write a document and thanks for shar...Yes i need to write a document and thanks for sharing those 2 sitesWeight Gain Storieshttp://www.weightgain.org/category/weight-gain-storiesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-27059396140030264732010-08-27T20:01:45.174-07:002010-08-27T20:01:45.174-07:00When I was 18 I went to my first GYNO appointment....When I was 18 I went to my first GYNO appointment. I was a virgin... and was at my lowest weight, 190. I undressed from the waist down and waited for the DR. to come in. She came in, had me lay back. She was pushing on my abdomin and asked "what sort of surgery did you have?"... <br /><br />I replied "none... why?". <br /><br />She said "you have a c-section scar here"... and she pointed to the crease in my fat roll.<br /><br />I laughed and told her "That is my fat roll hinge."<br /><br />She then said "I will need to test you for the HIV virus... and get you on birth control. I don't appreciate lairs." <br /><br />I don't remember what she said next. I was shocked... I grew up in church and had never even had a boyfriend at that point. She never even did a pelvic exam... if she did she would have seen "virginity intact". <br /><br />Obviously she was not familiar with big girl anatomy... which includes various rolls and creases in odd places. I wasn't even that big when I saw here... that was 10 years ago... I wonder what she would say now that I have gained 100 pounds?!?!<br />*****************************<br />When my husband and I started TTC, we went in to see the "best OB in the Greater Phoenix area. He did a variety of tests on both my husband and I. Finally after a few months he decided to put me on birth control. I was "Too fat" to get pregnant... that was his diagnosis. He didn't address my PCOS or Thyroid disease... I started the birth control...<br /><br />After a few months of being on the birth control, I hounded the Dr and he reluctantly took me off of them... I got pregnant and misscarried 4 times. The Dr. would say "you just need to loose more weight" <br /><br />we ended up moving to California and I went to a new Dr. Who ran the same tests as the previous Dr. <br /><br />The test came back showing Antiphosphil Lipid Antibodies (among PCOS and Thyroid problems)... the birth control was clotting my blood because of the antibodies and could have killed me... My current DR. requested the tests from the previous Dr... when compared they were exactly the same. I tested positive for the antibodies before the miscarriages... <br /><br />My previous Dr. was so concerned about my excess weight that the neglected the real issue. After being taken off birth control and put on a blood thinner I had a healthy pregnancy resulting in a healthy baby!Sarah Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11007168653062922949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-79356940825562094522010-08-27T09:22:58.563-07:002010-08-27T09:22:58.563-07:00I was refused fertility treatment on the NHS in 20...I was refused fertility treatment on the NHS in 2008 due to my BMI being above 30 (it was, at the time, 39). When we went to a private clinic we found that the BMI restrictions apply everywhere, not just on the NHS, and the only way I was able to get consent for a treatment cycle was because I could prove that my high BMI was a result of my lipoedema. All but two of the doctors at the clinic absolutely refused to have anything to do with my treatment, and the two who did treat me were both fat; one of them, the main doctor who was treating me, made a really big deal of emphasising how he had alienated his colleagues by taking me on as a patient.<br />When the time for my egg retrieval was near, the anaesthetist sat me down and explained in a very harsh and condescending manner that he was refusing to do his job for me because I was too fat. Egg retrieval involves needles being pushed through the vaginal wall and into the ovaries repeatedly, and is either done under general anaesthetic, or local with sedative and painkillers. I had to have mine done with absolutely no anaesthetic or drugs of any kind. It was just me and my mp3 player on the table while my doctor aspirated as many of my seventy-six follicles as he could. It was every bit as painful as you might imagine.<br />This is just one of at least a hundred incidents of fat-based mistreatment I've experienced personally.Shirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08094253285089115683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-40506909288833179572010-08-25T19:43:57.475-07:002010-08-25T19:43:57.475-07:00Thank you for sharing my story (the sonographer &a...Thank you for sharing my story (the sonographer & my miscarraige). I want to share a story on the other side of the issue...<br /><br />When it was determined that I was miscarrying my first pregnancy, I was referred to the OB I have now. He has never once made me feel like a loser or a bad mother because of my weight. He has seen me through two miscarraiges, several gynocological procedures, and now 26 weeks into a difficult pregnancy. The only time my weight (I am 300lbs) has come up was when I needed to go under general anesthetic for a couple of procedures (a D&C and a uterine polyp/uterine septum removal), and then it was just to ensure that I would be fully under. We have discussed keeping an eye on my weight gain, and up to this point I have only gained 1.5 pounds and baby is doing well. I confess that I could be the poster child for those who say that fat women shouldn't get pregnant because I have ended up with high blood pressure and gestational diabetes (insulin controlled), but my OB has never once made me feel that way. He ends every appointment by reminding me not to worry, that he knew we would get here (a successful pregnancy), and that he's proud of how far we have come. <br /><br />He's one of the good ones.Mrs. Gamgeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351339333625358960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-89903083114427929842010-08-25T17:55:59.802-07:002010-08-25T17:55:59.802-07:00I am a 25-year-old mother of two (soon to be three...I am a 25-year-old mother of two (soon to be three) children. I was heavy with my first two - but had them vaginally. With my first I was only 18 and very sensitive, and was told by my doctor that I was measuring big due to my extra weight. Okay - it hurt then but I guess it's a fact. With my second the physician I saw told me to not eat any Thanksgiving dinner as he did not want to deal with delivering a big baby.. stay away from the mashed potatoes and gray I believe he specifically mentioned. I had actually lost weight with that pregnancy and was due around Thanksgiving. This pregnancy - I am quite a bit larger.. around 290. I was shocked myself that I could even get pregnant. Whoops! My midwife has been very supportive but she herself is heavy so that really helps.. I hadn't had a problem until I went to get an ultrasound and the tech automatically asked me (at 20 weeks) how my glucose screen was. I told her I hadn't had one and won't until 28 weeks and she couldn't understand why they wouldnt give me one in the first trimester due to my size...(I am now 30 weeks and passed with flying colors..) then she went on to do my ultrasound and told me that it was very difficult to get any pictures of the baby due to my size. She kept huffing and puffing while having me move around... Let's face it - you're a big girl. :( OKAY I KNOW I'M BIG - does everyone have to keep reminding me?!?! I feel like I have to feel ashamed of being pregnant at my size.......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-17698894013066395412010-08-24T14:13:41.871-07:002010-08-24T14:13:41.871-07:00I was barely overweight at my first appointment fo...I was barely overweight at my first appointment for my second child, BMI 25.6. I was told by the nurse that I didn't need to gain any weight during my pregnancy because I was advice. I thought better of that advice and I did my best to gain weight eating as much as comfortable. I gained 22 pounds and had a healthy seven pound baby on his due date, VBAC.Lilliannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-78118750569499957712010-08-24T10:31:27.376-07:002010-08-24T10:31:27.376-07:00For my very first OB appt at about 10 weeks, I saw...For my very first OB appt at about 10 weeks, I saw a CNM. Ten seconds after she walked in the door she told me I was high risk because of my weight. Fine whatever, I do have family risk factors outside of that. I told her that other doctors had tried to diagnose me as diabetic without any solid evidence and that I would refuse to be labeled as such without a GTT (before I knew how stupid they are). She ordered a 1hr test and it came back borderline. I was told I needed to see a nutritionist to learn how to eat properly, to which I replied that both of my parents were diabetics and I was completely aware of how to manage diabetes with diet, "I'll see a nutritionist if I'll be given pregnancy specific given information, but please don't waste my time with the same old lectures." She goes, "Well you already have a glucometer, right? Would you be willing to see someone so they can make sure it's calibrated correctly?" Ugh fine whatever. Apparently my insurance would not cover the nutritionist without a GD diagnosis so I was informed that I had to have a 3hrGTT done...to attempt to diagnose me with something I didn't have so I could see a nutritionist I didn't actually need just to make sure my glucometer was working correctly when I actually already know how to calibrate it at home? Right. I refused and flat out told her that was the dumbest thing I've ever heard come from a healthcare provider. She then told me that I had to do a food journal for two weeks and check my sugars 4 times a day, writing all of the amounts down to give to the MD in the office so he could tell me how to eat properly...under the assumption I was lying and would continue to be eating like a pig. My response? The information to have my chart transferred to another clinic.Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03576504078115706818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-28480809796958852322010-08-24T08:44:56.512-07:002010-08-24T08:44:56.512-07:00When I was looking to find an OB when we were read...When I was looking to find an OB when we were ready to get pregnant, I asked around. I got a referral, but that OB wasn't taking new patients so I tried another doctor in that practice. Pretty much the first words out of her mouth were that if I did manage to get pregnant that I'd automatically be considered high risk because of my weight. She went on to list all the things that are more likely because of obesity. She wasn't mean, just discouraging. I left the office, cried in my car, and never went back. I read the book she recommended (Taking Charge of Your Fertility) and concluded that no one should ever get pregnant. Instead I did some research, including your plus-size pregnancy site. I got pregnant quickly the first time, and I have since had two children with the midwives at a free-standing birth center. The were matter-of-fact about my weight but didn't try to scare me. They were honest about some things being more likely but explained that that meant that, for example, the risk of something was 4% instead of 2% and no big deal. I have also found an OB/Gyn that has a similar outlook if I need to see one. No one ever told me I was going to die or was irresponsible to get pregnant, but that one appointment was very unpleasant. I have also found that if you have your spouse with you, things tend to be less intense as well.nopinkherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564755430685395898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-41454423286346223942010-08-23T18:56:45.921-07:002010-08-23T18:56:45.921-07:00My first birth was with my son who is now 9 and wh...My first birth was with my son who is now 9 and while it was horrific and I did experience quite a lot of discrimination based on my weight, I hadn't found FA yet and didn't have a defense. I was one of the one who believed every word and internalized a lot of hatred towards myself. I was also 19 years old, which may have also had something to do with me not standing up for myself or simply knowing what they were saying was total BS.<br /><br />My partner and I have finally set up a timeline for getting pregnant (next year!) and I'm determined to homebirth. I may weigh 230 and have a BMI of 40 on the nose, but I'm doing it... I'm doing everything I can do and then some. I plan to document the entire pregnancy and birth on my blog, whether I get great treatment or assholes, people will be hearing about all of it.Jasie VanGesenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09583974480069156969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-66560816473560126572010-08-23T16:13:46.210-07:002010-08-23T16:13:46.210-07:00This is EXTREMELY relevant to me lately! I just sa...This is EXTREMELY relevant to me lately! I just saw my ob chart (from a year ago) and it had so many assumptions Im actually going to write to get things removed. The absolute best thing was when my ob told me Id NEVER be able to birth a baby vaginally again because I am 70lbs overweight. Oh I birthed my 11.5lb baby with no drugs and no tearing!!!Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09284721116721631537noreply@blogger.com