tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post1225998131175469843..comments2024-03-17T10:07:53.205-07:00Comments on The Well-Rounded Mama: Fashion Newsflash: Fat Women Actually Have Sex!Well-Rounded Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04129621631406155340noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-21049192510177897432012-08-27T15:28:48.808-07:002012-08-27T15:28:48.808-07:00In 1977,there weren't any wedding or maternit...In 1977,there weren't any wedding or maternity clothes for me(over 300)I had to make my own. No bras for nursing The ideas that fat women had sex, wanted to be married, have children, nurse their babies , raise children were all not thinkable by society. Fat women are not suppose to live until they are no longer contagious th the thin ones.Brendanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-60002458449248287262010-06-22T09:47:48.339-07:002010-06-22T09:47:48.339-07:00I have had all my children from 2005 and onwards s...I have had all my children from 2005 and onwards so I have been blessed with the internet. for pregnancy clothing I wore motherhood maternity jeans and khakis a 1x fit me when I was a 16 and a 2x fit me when I was around an 18-20 but they are expensive so I shopped clearance and bought one pair of jeans, khakis, and black pants to last me my whole pregnancy. I just washed clothes a lot. for tops I shopped at lane bryant mostly just sizing up and looking for billowy tops that looked long. I also did things like gaucho pants made of jersey knit.....even at 5'10 and 300lb.s an xl from target had more than enough stretch to accomodate my belly. jersey knits were my best friend in pregnancies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-85000542131795733802009-11-08T05:09:24.471-08:002009-11-08T05:09:24.471-08:00I'm pregnant now, and so are a few friends of ...I'm pregnant now, and so are a few friends of mine. But they're all looking at the designer stuff at Pea In The Pod and gushing over wearing Tory Burch tunics and DVF maternity stuff. <br />I'm feeling rather left out; it appears my options are t-shirts and the occasional crewneck sweater. Being fashionable and fat was a challenge before I got knocked up; now it's apparently an impossibility. All the books and sites on maternity wear seem to just stop at size 10. <br />Or maybe this is the universe's way of telling me that I'm not supposed to be cute anymore; i can't tell.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08382030922676649070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-77282909410902680652009-04-21T18:07:00.000-07:002009-04-21T18:07:00.000-07:00I don't know if anyone will ever see this comment ...I don't know if anyone will ever see this comment because it's on an old post, but I just had to talk about my experience with maternity clothes. I've had three kids, but my middle baby was extremely premature-- I didn't wear maternity clothes at all. The other two were horrible. Like someone said, it is NOT a compliment for people to say, "Oh, you don't look pregnant!" I got by with jumpers stretched tight over my belly for the first baby. By the third baby, I was heavy enough I was out of those jumpers. My sister made me some dresses, but even that is a nightmare. Try finding dress patterns that actually fit plus-size woman, let alone pregnant plus-size woman. I muddled through with a few homemade pieces. I did buy one jeanskirt at Motherhood Maternity, but it was too uncomfortable for the last month. I did find one 3X maternity shirt at J.C. Penney's I did love. It was a summer shirt, though, and my baby was due in March, so I got to feel cute and pregnant in it for about a month. My husband kept looking for clothes to buy me, he couldn't believe that NOBODY out there makes plus size maternity clothes. Yeah, some people do have a few outfits up to 3X. And I do mean a few. I agree with the commenter who asked WHY they have such wide necks?? Everything is sleeveless, or low-cut to the point of ridiculousness. I'm fine with showing a tad of cleavage, but I also want to be warm in the winter, and not show off way more skin than I'm comfortable with. Ugh. The whole thing just makes me say "Ugh." If we go for baby number #4, I am going to try to augment my sewing ability (first tried sewing when I was helping my sister make the last maternity outfits!) to just try my own. I cannot believe no one out there even tries to make clothes for 4X or larger people.<br /><br />Okay, guess you hit a nerve with me!! :-)Evan and Clover and Co.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09304901519888860488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-23288091191118767112008-11-06T20:11:00.000-08:002008-11-06T20:11:00.000-08:00i really loved this post! i remember when a well-m...i really loved this post! i remember when a well-meaning friend gave me her maternity clothes with my first pregnancy, she was maybe a 4-5 pre pregnancy (i was a 10-12 and growing) too funny. i later discovered the Indian cotton skirts and big shirts for the remaining 2. i still found very little (that i could afford) in 2002-2003 post internet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-65369630796554938112008-11-06T10:42:00.000-08:002008-11-06T10:42:00.000-08:00Becky, Yes, it is common for women with PCOS to ha...Becky, <BR/><BR/>Yes, it is common for women with PCOS to have a large weight gain in late teens/early 20s. I don't know that studies have documented this (or even examined the question) but anecdotally I know many women with PCOS talk about it. <BR/><BR/>Could also have something to do with hypothyroidism, since many women with PCOS also have borderline hypothyroidism...not the obvious kind, where the numbers are clearly abnormal, but the borderline kind where you have significant symptoms but your numbers are normal or close to it. <BR/><BR/>I had both PCOS and undiagnosed hypothyroidism so I had a double-whammy. Gained about a hundred pounds in the space of 4-5 years. Yo-yo dieting also played a role in potentiating this weight gain. I did <I>everything</I> I could to try and stop it or reverse it and nothing helped. <BR/><BR/>If you suspect you have something like this going on with you, please research PCOS in more depth and see if any of it seems to fit you, then see a PCOS-friendly doc to get some testing done. Include thyroid tests as well, and know your exact results and the scale that was used to determine "normal."<BR/><BR/>Some women find a lot of help from exercise and watching their carb intake (not dieting, just watching carb intake), others from taking metformin, others from using herbs and/or acupuncture, etc. <BR/><BR/>Best wishes to you......Well-Rounded Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04129621631406155340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-39442080588843899692008-11-04T07:18:00.000-08:002008-11-04T07:18:00.000-08:00I buy maternity clothes online. I'm in 2X things ...I buy maternity clothes online. I'm in 2X things right now, and was excited to see that Old Navy had some maternity clothes that were actually kinda cute in 2x. But of course they're only available online, no trying things on to see how they look. And if they don't fit, you can't return them to the store, you can only return them through the mail as well. So I ordered when things were on sale, and had to wait and hope. I was so excited to have some cute maternity clothes--as soon as I put them on I got tons of compliments on my pregnant belly. When you're just wearing clothes that are too big for you, just to give your belly room, people just think you're gaining more weight. Maternity clothes do make a difference in how you look and feel, how you're perceived by others. This is my 4th pregnancy, and I've been different sizes for each, so the clothing issue has been a problem each time. Oh, but for some reason they think that when you are overweight your collar bones widen. The neck openings on most of these shirts are so wide that the shirts fall off my shoulders. So I'm working on ways to alter them so that I can actually wear them--right now I just have them safety pinned in strategic places.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-54044716839824817822008-11-03T10:54:00.000-08:002008-11-03T10:54:00.000-08:00I love the brutal honesty of your post! More big b...I love the brutal honesty of your post! More big beautiful women need to stand up for their right to have feminine, affordable and fashionable clothes! <BR/><BR/>Completely understand the whole <A HREF="http://www.materniy-wedding-dresses.com/beautiful-maternity-lingerie.html" REL="nofollow">maternity lingerie</A> thing too! I was already a 36G pre-pregnancy and as my local store obviously thought I was some kind of mutant (guess what they didn't stock anything over a DD - due to 'customer demand) so how in hell was I supposed to find a bra to fit my new curves? <BR/><BR/>You guessed it - the internet and my trusty measuring tape were what I relied on. Then I talked to other pregnant women and - you guessed it - I'm not a mutant after all - I'm NORMAL. A bunch of us marched down to the local store - full of good old preggie hormones - and suggested that they knew diddly about 'customer demand'.<BR/><BR/>It was a fun day!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for making me laugh and cry!About this bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18405561360737681821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-92095163346918118162008-11-03T09:41:00.000-08:002008-11-03T09:41:00.000-08:00this post hit's so close to home! w/ my 1st i didn...this post hit's so close to home! w/ my 1st i didn't have any maternity clothes either. thankfully i didn't need to look professional, and i was living in some sort of 1st pregnancy bliss and didn't really care. like you, i had a mother who could sew and she made me a few things. everything else was just regular clothes, which were also hard to find. but i look back at those pics and am completely embarassed. i can't believe how silly looked and that it didn't really bother me. ah well, at least i was happy in the moment. i've had 3 pregnancies and i have only ever owned 1 piece of maternity clothes, a shirt. i think i might have had a couple of nursing bras, but that was it.<BR/><BR/>i also had a hard time w/ a wedding dress. i ordered the biggest size they had and when it came the owner tailored it to me. <BR/><BR/>in my area they now have plus size shops that sell maternity clothes, good for all the plus size moms who are now having babies:)bellygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05011960242845102824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-3517295225024031842008-11-02T16:45:00.000-08:002008-11-02T16:45:00.000-08:00Great post!You young whippersnappers, you need to ...Great post!<BR/><BR/><I>You young whippersnappers, you need to appreciate the wonders of having the internet as a resource!</I> <BR/><BR/>I do!! Don't worry!<BR/><BR/><I>in which a strong weight gain in early adulthood is all too common</I><BR/><BR/>Is that for PCOS or hypothyroidism? Or the combination? Because I'm 26 and have pretty much doubled my body weight since high school and I'm starting to think there might be a medical issue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-86476919097367812672008-11-02T15:57:00.000-08:002008-11-02T15:57:00.000-08:00Hi, I'm wellrounded, too!During my pregnancy, I wa...Hi, I'm wellrounded, too!<BR/><BR/>During my pregnancy, I was wearing a size 18-20 at the start, but I already had clothes in my own closet that went up to a size 24 (I'm so glad I never took that advice to get rid of my clothes that were too big). I did buy a pair of jeans at Motherhood Maternity. I didn't really buy any other maternity clothes.<BR/>If I get pregnant again soon, I'll just have to see how big I get -- to see if I'll need other clothes than what I've got in my own closet. I didn't need too many very professional clothes later in my pregnancy but I had several things that worked well.<BR/>I was really cold during most of my pregnancy (this time I would be continuing my thyroid medication, so that might help) but if I were really hot, I don't know what I would do -- most of my larger clothes are for cold weather.<BR/><BR/>I love your blog, by the way, and it's a relief to know there's a resource for me during a second pregnancy. I would love it if you would blog about managing pre-existing diabetes during pregnancy. I'm very lucky to have a good team this time if/when I get pregnant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-42593848342611477042008-11-02T15:22:00.000-08:002008-11-02T15:22:00.000-08:00>>I read with some amusement >>the rec...>>I read with some amusement <BR/>>>the recent press release <BR/>>>about a study finding that <BR/>>>fat women actually do <BR/>>>have sex. Gasp!!! Who'da <BR/>>>thunk it??!!??<BR/><BR/>This cracks me up since there has been so much talk in the media & in the OB world about how women having babies are HEAVIER. THAN. EVER.<BR/><BR/>Um, how do they think we are getting pregnant in the first place. Yep, we're having sex. Shhhhhh....Lisa H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12623917659505715451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4738062031052371885.post-64423856684966200602008-11-02T15:19:00.000-08:002008-11-02T15:19:00.000-08:00I LOVED This post. Really. Heart heart heart!!!F...I LOVED This post. Really. Heart heart heart!!!<BR/><BR/><BR/>For my first pregnancy I had *one* maternity shirt that a friend bought me that was totally too small by the end. Actually, no, pardon me, I had two, one of them was given to me by a woman that was much larger than me (but it at least fit my boobs!). It was button-down, though, so by the end, the buttons were pulling apart in the front. I just...wore sweat pants and my husband's t-shirts. This was post-internet days, of course. The few companies that make maternity clothes I'm interested in wearing (sorry, fat people also don't necessarily like dressing like they are 80yrs old, and NO WE ARE NOT ALL 7 FEET TALL!!) wanted so much money for a stinking SHIRT it choked me. <BR/><BR/>I fared a bit better with my second pregnancy, though I'm broke enough that I still re-cycled the same outfits over and over again because, again, I don't spend $50 on regular shirts, I'm certainly not going to do so for a shirt I'll only need for a few months every couple of years, if that. Yeh.Rebekah Costellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04796386818330396947noreply@blogger.com